Pickleball Mindsets: Knowing When to Grow, Knowing When to Win

by Mark Miller

I've reflected deeply on my journey as I approach my fifth anniversary of playing pickleball. At 34 years old and entrenched in my local business community, my pickleball ambitions aren't about turning pro—at least, not yet. Perhaps at 50, I'll shoot for the Coachella Valley Scorpions in the National Pickleball League (NPL). Until then, I've adopted two distinct philosophies to fuel my growth on the court: Playing to Grow and Playing to Win.

Playing to Grow

I spend about 40% of my court time playing recreationally, primarily at The Courts at PDR. My focus isn't solely on the scoreboard. Instead, I prioritize personal improvement and enjoyment.

My Growth Mindset in Action:

Imagine leading 6-0, clearly dominating with topspin returns aimed at the weaker opponent. With growth in mind, I shift strategies—opting for slice returns and directing play towards the stronger opponent. I share more court space and responsibilities with my teammate who is weaker than I am. Although this strategy might cost us the game, finishing at 8-11, the real victory lies in everyone on the court experiencing growth. Losing doesn't sting as long as we aren't "smoked"—an 11-0 defeat. Over time, I've learned to value development over immediate recognition. Tournament time is when I'll fully unleash.

Playing to Win (Cut Throat)

In competitive settings, every decision and shot revolves strictly around securing victory. There's no experimenting—only ruthless efficiency.

Winning Mindset in Action:

During a tournament match, falling behind 0-6 due to being passive or experimenting can be devastating. Immediate awareness and rapid adaptation to execute exactly what is needed—precise shots, adapting quickly, and relentless tactics—are crucial to regaining control and securing victory. Recognizing and responding instantly, without hesitation or experimentation, is a critical skill that requires deliberate and focused practice.

Balancing Both Approaches

Both mindsets are essential for well-rounded growth. Initially, "Playing to Grow" guided my early pickleball years. Today, I split my time equally between growth and competition, leveraging both philosophies to evolve continuously. Understanding when to grow and when to win has shaped not just my game but my approach to life.